Not sure where I read it, it was sometime last week. The author of an article was saying that very often when something stops us, we can view it as an obstacle or use it as an excuse. When you can't do what you want to do because of something getting in the way, do you keep looking for creative ways to go around it (in this case it's an obstacle) or do you let it stop you and give up (in this case it's an excuse)?
It made me thinking. For so long I wanted to decide what specifically I want to do with my coaching business: who is my target client that I would be inspired to coach, what are the services/packages I want to offer etc... And not having that clarity I didn't do much (up until now) to develop it as a business. Did I do coaching and have clients? Sure I did. I just didn't have a solid business goal of what I am building and didn't do much to attract those clients. So as for obstacles and excuses I had a really good reason not to fully commit to coaching and developing my business: I don't have that clarity, and I need it to start, so I am not going to fully commit until I get that clarity. But when I asked myself today: having that lack of clarity in the way, did I let it stop me or did I look for ways to get through that? And I realized I was in and out. Sometimes I seek out coaching, do brainstorming etc., and sometimes I just focused on other things in my life, and at other times I just pushed too hard working to get that clarity and just got myself frustrated. My commitment in getting through this lack of clarity to the other side wasn't consistent. So I didn't have consistent business results (consistent clients and flow of new clients).
So the question is: how do I create that clarity, that inspiring vision for my business and what I want to create in the world and for myself through that while doing it in the flow with ease? Good question :) I don't have a solid answer yet. You would think a coach should know it right? Wrong :) Bad news: I can't coach myself. Good news: I have lots of coach friends. So... Tomorrow I have an early brainstorming session, then I am off for three days and nights of dancing at SF kizomba festival (time off from thinking about my goals). Starting Monday I will reach out to more friends and coaches for brainstorming, strategizing and coaching. I also committed a few days a go to at least 1 minute meditation every day (thanks to my friend Michael for nudging me!). I am open to any and all ways to create that clarity. If you have any idea or support you'd like to offer me in this exploration, give me feedback or brainstorm with me, feel free to reach out!
Speaking of commitment, also in the past I realized that the only time I didn't achieved an intention of mine was when I didn't commit to it with a timeline. So here it is: my intention and commitment is to define my target client and my service offerings by Dec 1 with ease and flow so that after that I will have no more excuses to procrastinate. 1 month commitments is how I changed my last two jobs and transitioned to a part time remote consulting. Now a little more than a month is a good duration for me to create my next professional outlet. A little scary but that just means I am on the right track of expanding myself and my comfort zone. Part of me is scared that what if I put it out here I still don't reach it by December 1? And that thought signals me my intention is not 100% at the moment (otherwise why would I doubt). Plus this will be a good accountability for me!
I will keep you updated on my explorations goes!